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Submitted by adele on Thu, 05/02/2024 - 08:15:AM

It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Joseph (aka Duke, Smoking Joe, %$$*#+@, etc) Duquette at his home with the assistance of a wonderfully dedicated and committed group of heath care professionals from the pallative care team here in Orleans, Ontario. Joe's suffering from cancer ended and he was surrounded by his family.  

Born in St Jochim, Ontario, Joe's childhood ended way too early when his own father passed away when Joe was only 12 years old. Joe then began working early in life, including picking tobacco around Ridgetown, which also lead to 'rolling his own' at this same age. At 16, Joe joined the Canadian Army as a RCASC Soldier Apprentice in 1959 as a driver/mechanic. The 'Boy Soldier' program was two years in length, where Joe finished his secondary education and his trade qualifications.  Joe was awarded the Top Apprentice Award for his platoon, which was the start of a very successful military career. In 1963, Joe was posted to Germany and it was there he met a pretty, blond (though older) Australian woman (Betty), who became the love of his life and his wife. In 1966, they had their son Michael, and upon rotating back to Canada a year later, they welcomed their daughter Michele into the family. The military moved Joe and his family about every three years, and this also seemed to coincide with his quick, though well deserved, promotions through the ranks. Joe was promoted to the rank of Chief Warrant Officer at the young age of 39.  Joe completed almost 36-years of service, with the Canadian Armed Forces, when he retired in 1995. Joe settled down for the first time since he was 16 years old in Orleans, Ontario, with Betty.  

After traveling so much throughout their lives, Joe and Betty settled comfortably into retirement, and into their 'first' real home. They made it exactly how they envisioned, after all the years of military housing. Joe and Betty travelled parts of Canada and once to Australia, but Betty's breast cancers prohibited it to shorter trips.  Betty passed away in June 2022 and part of Joe also left then too; he was not the same without Betty. 

However, as with any person who spends a career in the military, they become known for being a certain way.  Joe could be a tough man who never let anyone, including those in his family, pass a fault (or anything) and you heard about it quickly. The night prior to Joe's passing, the Ottawa region had a violent lightning, thunder and rain storm and it seemed as though the gates of heaven (or hell)  knew Joe was coming. Psalm 23:4, which has been changed somewhat for Joe, but seems very fitting for that moment:

"Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for I am the meanest SOB in the valley..."

Joe was jumping out of airplanes in the military into his 40's, and he made his final exit on April 28, where he had the softest landing ever. He has now joined the love of his life, 'little Betty' and they are together again. 

Joe is survived by his sister Peggy Delmege (Murray), son Micheal (Nina), daughter Michele (Ben) and was a grandfather to Jordan, Tristan and Zachary. 

Many thanks to the entire Ottawa pallative health care team for their professionalism, dedication and kind treatment of Joe. The took care of all his needs (or demands) until his passing. The funeral for Joe will be private and for family only. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to any Cancer foundation in the world. 

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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2024 - 11:44:AM

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James(Jim) Fell

You were a great soldier and you will be missed by everyone who has known you over the years. RIP Brother

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2024 - 01:34:PM

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Tom Taylor

I first met Joe in 1959 when he arrived in Camp Borden as a 16 year old Soldier Apprentice. I was one year senior and it was my job to teach him and his Platoon mates how to press their uniforms, polish their boots etc. Joe was a quick learner and among the first to be promoted to lead his platoon. He became an excellent soldier, rising to the highest non-commissioned rank of Chief Warrant Officer. We remained good friends for the past 65 years. Joe will be missed by all who had the pleasure of knowing him. My condolences to Michael, Michele and their families. I share your loss. RIP dear friend.

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Bill Fletcher

I have many fond memories of you Joe, a soldier's soldier. I wish you fair winds and soft landings.
Airborne

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Bill Fletcher

I have many fond memories of you Joe, a soldier's soldier. I wish you fair winds and soft landings.
Airborne

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 05/03/2024 - 08:16:AM

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Vanessa and Darren Perth Australia

Our thoughts and love is with Mike,Michelle and families.
Always a gentleman Uncle Duke, and the love of Aunty Betty's life.
Much love from Perth Western Australia
Darren Vanessa and families.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 05/03/2024 - 08:48:AM

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Richard Pelletier

My sincere condolences to all family members regarding the loss of Joe.
l first met Joe when l was posted to a radar station in North of Quebec CFS Moisie 1974 he was the Station Transportation Officer.Day one l went to his office for the welcome speech when he was finished with me,l said to myself l better keep my nose clean for the next 4 years and guess what ,this good introduction speech stick with me for the rest of my career. Joe and l would often meet at the Beechwood Military Cemetary ,me to visit my wife and daughter and him visiting Betty and lately l did not see him much, now l know the reason why.
It is never easy to say good bye to a friend, much easier to say, see you again.
Rest in eternal peace and know that memories will be cherished.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 05/03/2024 - 09:56:AM

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Ginette and Marcel Tremblay

Our deepest sympathies to Mike and Michelle and the rest of the family. Joe and Betty were great neighbor and are glad to call them friends. Both families were always on the lookout for each others. Your were right in saying that a part of Joe's heart left with his Betty passed. If it is any consolation we can say that they are finally reunited and happy to be together again. Rest in peace Joe, the neighborhood will miss you.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 05/03/2024 - 05:40:PM

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Lisa Jeffery

Deepest condolences Nina & Mike. You have been so devoted to his comfort & care.

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Rhonda Sharp

It has been a pleasure keeping in touch with Duke over the years. A gentleman and a character who said it how it was. He will be in peace now with Aunty Betty . Mike and Michelle (my cousins) and families, please accept our deepest sympathy. From Rhonda and Frank and Donna and family Queensland Australia and Ashley and family Helsinki, Finland .

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 05/04/2024 - 10:42:AM

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Dennis Smulski

On behalf of my wife Julie and my self we extend our heartfelt condolences to Joe’s family here and abroad. Joe and l have been old soldiers and neighbours for over 30 yrs and how alined our pre and post careers were very much the same. Boy soldier , Master trucker, Son of the Airborne, RSM. Great career! Joe loved his family and cherished his Betty. He was not the same with her passing. To Mike l want to thank you for being here helping your dad thru his last days. Great Jos well done! To those Joe will understand when l say what a good man he was. I am proud to call Joe my friend and we will miss him.
Rest well.
Julie & Dennis Smulski
RCEME (CWO) retired

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